What is it that makes a man fall in love and want to spend the rest of his life with someone?
What’s that magic “Cupid’s arrow” that would suddenly make him realize that she’s THE ONE?
While it’s true that different people fall in love in different ways, and men and women often think about love and relationships differently, there are some common factors that are surprisingly consistent from man to man.
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7 Things a Man Needs to See, Feel and Experience Before He’ll Allow Himself to Fall Head Over Heels in Love and Fully Commit to You for a Lifetime
Here are seven things that a man needs in order to fall in love with you.
1. He needs to be ready.
Every man has certain prerequisites that he needs to accomplish or experience before he’s willing to allow himself to fall in love and commit to spending the rest of his life with you.
These prerequisites are, however, unique and personal to each and every man.
For some men, they need to be a certain age. For other men, they need to have a certain amount of income or their career needs to be at a certain level. Or he may need to feel like he can provide for you at a certain level or even have a specific kind of house for you.
Whatever the prerequisites may be, most men have a certain level of accomplishment they feel they must reach before they can allow themselves to settle down and spend the rest of their lives with someone.
So, if a man tells you he’s not ready, the best thing that you can do is believe him.
2. He needs to know that he can provide for you.
Every man wants to feel like a capable provider – that he can provide the kind of relationship, home, family and quality of life that you want. In fact, feeling like a provider is essential for a man to fall in love and deciding that, yes, you are the woman that he wants to be with.
So go ahead… let him pay for dinner, kill a spider or open your door!
Allowing a man to feel like a provider isn’t about downplaying your own capabilities or putting on a damsel-in-distress act. It’s about letting your man express who he is without finding flaws, competing or arguing.
And if you already have a man and he’s doing a good job of being a provider, then appreciate him. Celebrate him and let him know that what he’s doing is working, so that he feels capable in the job he’s doing for you!
3. He needs to feel confident that he’s not going to hurt you.
It’s painful for a man to see you cry based on something that he’s done. He would rather have his arm chewed off by an alligator than to make you cry!
That said, if he thinks that you’ve already decided that he’s the one for you, but HE is not sure about you yet, that will often cause him to put on the brakes in the relationship or to pull the ejection cord and back out early.
You see, he’s afraid if he moves forward with the relationship, and six months later he realizes that the relationship isn’t really what he wants, he’s going cause you more pain.
So if you’re just beginning to date him, here’s what I suggest: Only be as committed to him and to the relationship as he is to you.
When you keep your options open, you make it much less likely that a guy will feel the need to pull away at the beginning of a relationship. And if he does… hey, it’s no big deal.
If he pulls away from you or even leaves you, that’s disappointing for sure, especially if you really liked him. But since you’ve kept your options open, you can move on and find a guy who feels excited and lit up that he gets to date you!
4. He needs to feel sexual chemistry with you.
He wants his sex life with you to be amazing – just as you do!
So, here’s what’s great: When you feel comfortable and confident in your own body and with your own sexuality, YOU will actually drive the sexual chemistry in the relationship.
Whether you’re already engaging in sex together or not, your connection to your own sexuality puts out a vibe that communicates to him that your sex life is going to be amazing.
5. He needs to feel loved and accepted for who he really is.
Like many women, most men also have a fear of not being enough, accepted or loved.
This is why one of the greatest needs he has in a relationship is to know that he’s enough and that he’s completely accepted by his partner.
So, how do you communicate to him that he’s enough? Interestingly, the most powerful way that you can communicate that he’s loved and accepted starts with YOU loving and accepting yourself.
As you love and accept yourself, you actually send out a subconscious signal to him that communicates that you’re able to love and accept him, as well.
6. He needs to believe that you are his partner in life.
Do you have his back? Will you stand by his side? One of my friends told me a great story that exemplifies this perfectly...
He was driving in his car with a woman he was dating, and had to slam on the brakes because of what was going on in traffic. His girlfriend at the time immediately looked at him and asked, “What are you doing? Why are you driving like that?”
Not long after that, they broke up and he started dating his now wife. At one point, they were in the car and he was driving. As before, he had to stop suddenly and she immediately looked at the car in front of them and said, “What is that person doing? Why are they stopping so fast?”
He said it dawned on him right away that her immediate response was to have his back, whereas the other woman’s immediate response was to criticize him.
So, are you going to be the type of partner whose immediate response is to have your man’s back and believe the best in him? Or will you throw him under the bus and criticize him?
He wants a partner who will stand by his side, have his back and support him, just as he’s going to support you.
7. He needs to feel like he can live his purpose with you.
He needs to feel that with you, life expands rather than constricts. With you, he’s able to be the best version of himself and life is going to get better, richer and more fulfilling.
He wants to know you’re able to travel together or have adventures together, and that you’re able to maintain and deepen friendships that you both have.
You can communicate all of this by living your purpose, creating something amazing in your own life and always seeking to grow yourself. When you do this, you naturally challenge him to grow his life and to go for his purpose, and he’ll feel like the best version of himself in your presence…
And when a man feels like the best version of himself in your presence, he will absolutely fall in love and want that experience for a lifetime!
So there you have it – the 7 things a man needs in order to fall in love with you!
Bottom line: A relationship is a partnership.
It’s about being on the same team, being a support system for one another and navigating through life’s journey together.
This means you have a shared vision for the future and you have a lot of common ground… and this, coupled with chemistry and attraction, sets the foundation for an amazing relationship that lasts a lifetime!
And now, here’s a question for you… and a very special FREE gift!
What do you need to feel in order to fall in love with a man? What qualities draw you in and make you swoon that are deeper than just physical appearance?
Leave a comment below – I’d love to hear from you!
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